Compromising

Sometimes, I do something that I don`t want to do, just to avoid to make friends feel uncomfortable, embarrassed or rejected.

For example, last night, we went to body building and on the way home, she asked if I want to go buy cheap bread at some supermarket. She said they only sell the bread half the price at the very last minute of the day right before their closing and now was the that time. I really don`t want to, because the whole purpose of body building is to lose weight and if I buy some bread which I definitely will eat, I definitely will gain weight which I try so hard to lose. So, I really don`t want to. But just not to let her feel bad, I said ok and forced myself to buy some bread that I don`t want to be anywhere near.

Same sort of things, I did tons of them, just to make others feel less rejected.

Did you ever do anything similar? People call it compromising which is a stupid thing to do when you think about it. But still, what else can you do? what other choice do we have?

Glee

‘Glee’!!!

I am a glee fan. And after watching Season 2, episode 6, I have to admit, I am quite surprised.

Ryan Murphy is unpredictable. I never thought he would make Kurt and Darren have a kiss scene. Quite unexpected, and it is kind of interesting because Darren is the only guy who bullies Kurt and he happens to be the guy who has a crush on Kurt.

Using Chinese proverbs, ‘打是情，骂是爱’, means people fight or bully because they care or love that person. Sounds strange right? But it has a truth in it, like what Darren did to Kurt. Probably he is just too afraid to show what he truly feels, and the only thing he dares to do is to act opposite.

Either way, it is quite a turn on for me. So a special thanks to Ryan, and please keep up with the good work!

Two-year old fight

An old old friend got in touch with me yesterday through renren website which is used as facebook in China.

The first thing she asked was: are we still friends? We get over that fight right?

All I can think of is what fight? When? For what?

Seriously, I have no memory of fighting with her over anything. Especially when it was two years ago as she said. Either way, we ended up chatting, and joking like the old times. By old times, I mean when we were at high-school. Those were great times, and it was six years ago.

Still, I can`t help wondering what was the fight for? How can she hold up to a fight for such a long time? Doesn`t she ever forget these kind of things after like a beautiful dream or pleasant night? Plus, we are friends, we fight, we make up, what`s the big deal?

Anyway, my point is the past is past. Don`t hold up too much on the things in the past, it is simply a waste of time and life. And it definitely will make your life much harder and more pathetic than you can ever imagine.

So, please, just learn to let go and move on.

Resigning

I am officially resigning today. Called my new company, communicated a little, cleared my doubts, and now time to bring up the resignation to current boss.

It is very unsettling. Can easily get nervous about the unknown future --- what will it be like in the new company, at new job, with new colleagues around? Either way, some adventure I would say.

I don`t know how long does it take to get out of here? Not that I don`t like my job or colleagues, I do. They are a bunch of nice people and the job is something I am really good at. But it is not what I want to do for the rest of my life and this is important.

Every successful person would tell you, do what you love, and it is the only way you will get succeed someday. One after one, I started to deeply believe in it. And more importantly, I eager success too much that I would do anything it takes to get it.

So here I am, taking the risk of losing everything, sending out my resignation letter.

Wish me all the best!

Anxiety

Lately, I found myself being very anxious and worrying that nothing I do helps but reading. Don`t know why myself. Normally I hate reading. Once I start reading, I can easily get into sleep. But lately, odd enough and I don`t know what changed, once I get into reading, I can feel quite relaxed and calm that all those things that I was worried too much about seem all gone. And all I am left to feel is the happiness…

It is such an amazing feeling that I want to keep it forever…

Fight

Had a serious fight with my second eldest sister last night. She is republican while I am not. And we have so different views and opinions against government and politics that whenever we chat about national events, we end up fighting, disagreeing and hating each other.

She can`t understand why I am so ‘unrealistic’ (using her words), why can`t I realize that we, as the citizen, can`t change anything but accept it, including unfairness, injustice, and everything. It is what it is, and all we can do is to live with it.

While, I can`t understand why she can`t realize that the republican is ruining our life, they are the very reason why our life is so hard right now? And we have the right, obligation and responsibility to fight for our rights, our better future. We can`t always accept whatever they throw to us. It will make them more rampant and exploit us every way they can. We need to stand up and fight and to let them know that they are there to serve us, not us to serve them. Or else, what`s the point of having a government?

Fighting, no matter win or lost, makes a difference. I deeply believe in that.

Judgement Day

No chance I am getting that job, at all. :( Damn it. What I did wrong? Talked too much? Way too passionate? Appears to be irresponsible? Dressed inappropriately? Too much confident?

Gosh, I wish I would have taken it easy. I was too eager to express myself, to show that I am confident, capable and passionate, that it works the opposite. Damn it. I tried it too hard. F*.

Whatever, what`s done is done. There is nothing I can do to help reverse the situation. So, take it as a lesson and I will just move on.

Wedding Candies

Getting to office, I found there are wedding candies on everyone`s desk. Wondering who is the lucky guy that got married?

When I say guy, you might be wondering why not girl? Well, 30 members in our team, only three of them are girls and I am pretty sure none of them are getting married soon, so…

Talking of getting married, it will bring such a huge change to every single aspect of your life or you, if you are the one who is getting married. Like: you need to learn to be more responsible. Need to earn more money. Need to buy a house and the pay the loan for the rest of your life. Need to be sensitive. Need to be caring. Need to go home every single night to the same person and need to be prepared for your upcoming baby. Just so many things to be aware of or be capable of that sometimes it could be quite overwhelming.
scary, isn`t it?

Getting fat?

I suddenly realized that I got a little fat lately. What`s going on?

Probably caused by the fact that lately, I am eating too much and having no exercise, at all. Damn it. Time to straighten myself up. Can`t afford to get fat again.

What I am gonna do?

• Start jogging and playing basketball every night around 7:30-8:30.
• Eat less.
• Eat less.
• And eat less.

Wish me good luck :D

'Social Network'

Ever get the chance to watch the latest movie ‘social network’ yet?

One word: great!

I, myself graduated from software engineering major and love dealing with computers and networks all day long. And every time I watch a high-tech crime or fighting crime movies, I would easily get pumped up and start searching a way to be a hacker.

Truth be told, there aren`t much inspiring high-tech movies. But ‘social network’ happens to be one of them.

What I get by watching this movie is that, 1), how Mark Zuckerberg creates the facebook 2), how intelligence, dedication and hardwork help you achieve whatever you want.

Just a great movie, if you are a computer fan, you definitely wouldn`t want to miss it :P

Weibo, in another words 'Twitter'

Spending more than half an hour each day on twitter (Weibo in Chinese), replying and posting. The most interesting part of this tool is that, you get the chance to express your opinions about a lot of things, freely and wildly. People might judge, but you always can fight back. And if people like your opinions or thoughts, they might follow you around which it calls it becoming a fan. So far, I got 33 fans, I earned them one by one. :D

I want to post everyday, but not much original thoughts yet. Maybe I should read more to gain more thoughts. Anyway, it is a great place to kill time, but free time only.

Smile

I don`t know what changed, but people don`t smile to each other anymore, especially on bus. Everyone is so self-defensive that nobody trust nobody and everyone is living in his own scary world like if you talk to others, they might rob you or something. It just makes me sad.

Anyway, yesterday, on a bus, an old man, really old, like at his 70s, stared at me with no reason. The bus was so crowded and I seem so little and helpless in there that somehow I caught his attention. And then, giving the circumstances and the good mood I was in, I did one thing that I barely do on a bus or to a stranger: I smiled. And then, surprisingly, he smiled back, with genuineness in his eyes, his teeth all out (missing some:D), just like my grandpa. I suddenly felt the warmth of his heart or mine and felt so happy which lasts for the rest of my whole day. I guess this is the magic of smile, can make people`s day easily.

Job hunting

I uploaded my profile to 51job for DBA job hunting. And today, I received a call asking me for an interview. I decided not to wait any longer or hide any longer. It is such excruciating to not able to work with oracle every day. People say, only do what you love to do will lead you to success. And what I love is to work with oracle database, every single day.

Finally, I get the chance, even if I might not get the offer, still, this is me walking out the first step. I am ready for the worst. I don`t care or I am no longer worried about whether I would fail. All I want is to experience the rejection, the failure and learn to gain the courage to face them, and not give up.

Oh boy, the movie 'Front of the Class' really inspires me.

the thing that bothers me

I want to be good at public speaking. So I decided to be a dedicated contributor to TMC. I am no longer the member because of 200$ fee which I am so reluctant to pay. But I choose to be one of the most active guests. Either way, I am trying to run toward my goal—to be an excellent speaker.

One of my passions lies in movies & tv series. So I thought I talk about it. But I can`t figure out a good way to deliver my passion, deliver the joys that I get from watching those movies and tv series. Specifically, I don`t know how to present it? Should I just talk about one movie or give a list of my favorite movies?

Then come to think about it, different people could have quite different tastes in movies. Some like criminal or violent movies, some like love stories, while the others might like sci-fis. How can I present it to meet the most of my audiences` need? Maybe I should put up a PPT to go together with my speech?

Still not sure. Give me some time to think it through. But no matter what, I definitely will give them a good presentation. :D

Hard to say NO to the family

The minute my eldest sister called, I knew what is about. The other day, mom asked me for money and I said no. I knew there is nowhere else she can turn to, but I still said no. lending mom the money is like giving to her, there is no way that I can get it back. I knew because it happened a lot in the past, and you can say I learned my lesson.

Before you judge, I am a mom`s good girl, whenever she needs anything, I would do whatever I can to help her. That`s the exact reason why I am in a deep debt, 80 thousand Yuan -- I am helping her paying her debt. I managed to pay back the half so far, and I promised the owner that I will pay back the rest at the end of next year.

To able to do that, I need to keep 3 thousand Yuan savings each month. And to lending out the money to mom won`t help me achieve it. So I decided to say no to mom no matter what. And I did, but I knew she will ask my eldest sister to ask me for money, and I knew my sister has the capability to pay me back on time.

As I thought, she asked, and I said ok, and she surprised that I would say yes so quickly. Well, what do you expect? To my family, say no once is hard enough, say no twice is something I can`t do. Plus, I know my sister would pay me back no matter what. I have faith in her and I know things will turn out right eventually. :D

End of Year 2009

Isn`t that sad when you look back and can`t remember anything that you did extraordinarily well?

Isn`t that pathetic when you know that you can be brave and make a change to your life while you just played safe and did nothing?

Isn`t that miserable living a life like a walking dead? Which exactly what I am doing now!

I know much more than I think I know. I can do much more than I think I am capable of doing. But out of fucking fear, I, still am standing still. And I fucking hate that!

Why the hell a sense of self-importance is important to each individual, or at least to me?

Because, it can deliver a sense of constant excitement to your brain to make you focus on or dedicated to your work or the thing you do more than ever. It is a source of motivation, a driven energy, drives you closer toward your goals and dreams.

Did you ever feel excited or very satisfied with the compliment from your boss or your colleagues? What do you think you really get from that compliment? Isn`t that the feeling of being appreciated, being valued, the feeling that you know you are important to them? So you should ask, what is wrong with it?

Normally, there is nothing wrong with it except that your sense of importance comes from other people but not from you! you are building your self-worthiness based on others` opinions, but not yours. Simply put, you are dependent on others.

The worst thing about dependency is you are fragile, vulnerable, emotionally controlled by others` weakness. Trust me, as long as you are dependent, you are weak!

People wouldn`t care what kind of life you want or what kind of future you are planning for yourself. No one gives a shit about what you will become and who you will be. So, don`t expect to get the feeling of self-importance from other individuals, that`s pathetic. Evaluate your own importance yourself and tell yourself that you are indispensible. And start act like one, and don`t give a shit about what people think. Do this often, can help you build your self-confidence!

Predicament

Did you ever see a dress look terrific on the model, thought it would be terrific on you and bought it without trying it on?

I did. Many times. And it looks awful on me. I regret it every single time for every single dress I bought without actually knowing whether it fits me!

I did that again, it is not dress this time, but a job, a task comes with responsibility. It is not that I am inadequate for the job, but that it is a time-consuming job. It is always urgent but not important, trivial matters only, you barely can learn things from it. Simply put, not beneficial, not to me at least.

In a very large percent of time in our lives, we are dealing with urgent but not important matters. Like a ringing phone, an unanswered doorbell. These are not important, but urgent, they keep bugging you til you answer them. It is the same with the job I am taking. You have to be there to respond to it whenever, wherever.

The problem with me is that I like to separate my personal life from work. Once I am off work, I am done with work. I don`t want to be bothered, be involved in anything. At least not now, not at night during my off work hours.

But the problem with this job is that it invades my private time, forces me to give up part of my personal life. I would be like a on-call doctor. I have to be dedicated to this fucking thing unconditionally.

Everything is a tradeoff! The positive side of this job is it can promise you a fulfilling life which is be busy all the time. Some people like that, I do too. Keep busy like a bee can stop you from feeling fucking emptiness or nothingness of your life, which is a good thing because some people don`t know what they should do if they stop working and afraid to lose the purposes of life which they misperceive it as work and which they have lost long time ago.

I don`t want to be one of them. Since I am young, I am capable and willing, I would like to do something good, something extraordinary, something amazing. So to me, time is everything, time is life. That`s why I don`t want to give up my time for a job that can`t get me nothing, take me nowhere!

Having said all these, still, I haven`t decided yet! So, please, call me a coward!

Anti 'the disease of self-improvement'

http://www.mindpowernews.com/SelfImprovementDisease.htm
A friend of mine gives me this link and it is an article about 'the disease of self-improvement'.

And the below is my response to it, hope you enjoy!

Quote: ---Have you purchased self-improvement programs or read self-improvement books that you thought were going to change your life – but nothing really changed after your purchased them? You are not alone---.

Seriously? There are two main reasons why those programs or books fail to bring any change to your life:

1)Not the right and good book or time-worthy program.

2)You never really understand those philosophy introduced in those books or programs and even if you do, you are not applying those in your daily life.

So what is self-improvement?

Self-improvement is the actions that you will take when you feel deficient or incompetent at some fields like at doing something or at some perspectives like a state of mind.

We choose to take actions, we choose to do something about ourselves because we feel and we know that we can do better and be a better me. It is an awareness, is a self-evaluation. It is a way of knowing yourself, a way of learning yourself and exploring yourself.

Quote: ---The Disease of Self Improvement is the false notion that somehow we are "deficient" and in order to be happy and successful we have to "improve" ourselves. The very act of trying to improve ourselves causes us to believe that there is something wrong with us in the first place---

What? False notion? Who are you kidding. We as human, are deficient at many things. Like I don`t know how to drive a car. So I need to join a training course to learn how to drive it. Otherwise I will never master the skill of driving a car. My point is we are really deficient at different things and unless we go into the corresponding courses to learn and improve our skills, we will never be able to do it correctly.

Another example of why we need to self-improve. Suppose you are a shy guy who never really give a presentation before a thousand of people. You are stressed and nervous, don`t know how to do it right and successfully. So what you should do is to improve your ability to present yourself in front of people. How are you going to do that? Read a book about how to give presentation and practice the skills mentioned in the book. You might learn how to organize your context, how to interact with audiences, how to warm up the atmosphere before the presentation and how to deliver your points clearly and concisely. It is self-improvement, it is knowledge that you can learn from a self-improvement book.

We choose to improve ourselves not because we think there is something wrong with us, but we know from inside that there is something we should learn to do a better job, be a better me.

Quote: ---The only thing "wrong" is your beliefs ABOUT yourself and about the way life works---

The funny thing is that we create our beliefs and control our beliefs, not the opposite. So if there is anything wrong with the beliefs that I am holding on, then there must be something wrong with me.

It is the same with life. We are the one who is leading the life, but not the life leading us. So, if there is anything wrong with the way life works, there must be something wrong with me leading a life like that.

Quote: ---So how do you begin to live your life without the need for "self improvement"? First, begin by understanding that you already have everything you need to be happy and successful.---

That`s easy. Be a dummy, live a numb life. I am sure a person with IQ of 60 don`t know such thing as 'self-improvement'. Therefore he definitely has no such kind of need either.

You have everything you need? Who are you fooling? Yourself? Yeah, you can do that. Be happy with what you have. don`t have to suffer from the feeling of self-deficiency and self-insecure. Like no pain, which in turn will no gain either.

We feel we need self-improvement because we have the desire to be superior than others, to be more competent and powerful than others. Have the urge to be heard, to be known and to be respected and valued. To get the satisfaction of importance, to be adored and even to be memorized.

It is a choice that you make for your life and a life that you choose to pursue, to live. And it is personal.

Quote: ---Because it is so deeply embedded into your psyche that you don’t even know it is there, or where to find it, you seek out self-improvement material to help you find what you ALREADY have.---

It is really annoying to hear a lie like you already have it all.

Really? You have the height to play basketball doesn`t mean you are qualified for it. It is the skill that counts but not only the physical condition. Unless you are telling me that all those NBA players know how to play basketball since they were born.

It is the teaching, learning process that matters. It is the way how it comes to your awareness that matters. Then how can we make those things that matter happen to us? This is exactly where the self-improvement comes into play.

Quote: ---Why You Have to Think for Yourself---

this is reasonable and agreeable. Good point.

Quote: ---When you think about and talk about things that are in harmony with your desires, instead of thinking about what is wrong with you and the rest of the world, you will no longer be a victim of the Disease of Self Improvement. ---

It is where you should learn to differentiate the situations of self-improvement and self-denial. For your information, there are other states of mind as well and the state that you are promoting is called self-satisfaction. All you are saying is fill your mind with what you want and forget the rest. If you live only one day or two like that, I have no problem. But if you want to live your whole life like that, you are doomed. It is a classic act of self-deceiving.

This Dr. really know how to fill your mind with shit.

Quote: ---But you have to experience it from the inside out – not the outside in. ---

this is the sentence that I like most or I found most useful. However, it is imposed with twisted views. What a pity.

Quote: ---If you live your life from the outside in you will be controlled by your mind. ---

If we are not supposed to be controlled by our minds, then what are we supposed to be controlled by? Are we going to be surrogates and let`s the surrogates be us and control our minds? (the opposite scenario of 'Surrogate' by Bruce Willis') Do explain Dr.

Quote: ---Once you understand how to cooperate with the principles of quantum physics and the Law of Attraction, you will finally break out of the Self-Improvement trap for the rest of your life. ---

The masquerade of 'nothing'. Really nothing in it.

Quote: ---I do not teach self-improvement. Instead I teach people how to cure themselves from the Disease of Self improvement by creating their lives by design.---

Hmm, let`s say you have a disease of self-improvement and you don`t know it is a disease. After attending this Dr.`s session, you come to aware that you do have this disease. From not knowing to knowing, I would say it is an improvement and it is an improvement of you, you probably would call it self-improvement. Oh God, this Dr. just gives you a self-improvement lesson and he is affirmative that he don`t teach self-improvement.

I am lost here. Thank you Doc, let me confused more!

View on 'The Secret'

To be honest, since we all see ourselves as thinkers, let`s think harder to figure out what this secret is all about!

I see the movie, also listen to the audio many times. The more I digest, the more I find it ridiculous.
The ridicule is that they give the old, same, universally accepted principle a different name as 'Law of Attraction' and present it in a very very shallow way.

1) Basic Principle:
The basic principle of so called 'The Secret' or 'Law of Attraction' is, think positively, have positive attitude and be goal-oriented!
There is no such thing as if you think about it, have your mind occupied with it, then you can get it. All those examples that they tell in movie, it seems work as they say, because of the change in those persons` thoughts, their attitudes. Positive thinking brings positive attitude, which in turn will effect your behaviors, your actions dramatically. It is like being happy. When you are happy, everything seems go so smooth and pleasant even it is not. You can`t see it because you are happy, your mind is occupied with the thought that you are happy, so a little trouble can`t change your happy mood.

It is the same. It all depends on how you think, how you see, more importantly, how you interpret it and take actions. It has nothing to do with the attraction. If you get anything that you desired, then it is not that you attract it to yourself, but that your thoughts, your actions bring it to you. It is what you get by working hard, taking actions.

2) The way it presents:
Once you see and realize the basic principle that this crap movie is presenting, you can see the fact that there is *nothing*, really nothing as a valuable context in this movie except the fact many so called 'successful XXXers' in it and many examples of applying this so called 'law of attraction' which only have start and end for the story and the repeat of emphasizing that it all is because they apply the law of attraction.

How a shirt become a lucky shirt? how a number become a lucky number? Because when good things happn, he is wearing that shirt. When you get what you desired, the number somehow related to it. It is pure coincidence, but some of us believe that it is these lucky things that attract the good things.

So, the problem is: is it? if you think it is, then I got nothing to argue, because I can`t persuade a person who embrace this kind of thought.

In a nutshell, really, there is nothing deep and profound in this movie because there is nothing in it!

Well, that`s my opinion obviously!

Presentation skills
I am very grateful for being here and have this opportunity to talk on the subject of the presentation skills .
As you all know, our TMC`s mission is to improve the presentation skills as well as other communication skills of each individual as a member.
So, I will talk about presentation skills and hoping that you all can benefit from it in one way or another!

No need to say, there are thousands of presentation skills that actually can improve the way you present yourself in front of others. And the following skills that I am going to talk about will be just the tip of an iceberg.

The problem is, more often, not that you know nothing about these skills, but that you never try to imply these skills in your presentation or speech. It is, in fact, all about awareness, about learning and practicing. I know the steps or procedures that need to drive a car, but until I actually get into a car, hold its steering wheel and step on its accelerograph, I would never know how exciting it can be or how panic I might feel to be really at the wheel. The same with these skills, unless you use it in your speech, you will never know how useful or effective they might be, and how they actually make a difference. All I am saying is, if you never practice what you have learnt, then you never really learned it.

So, now, I will present you with some of presentation skills that I personally see it as useful as others:
1. Use a simple structure for your talk:
1) The opening: the purpose of the opening is to get the audience`s attention, build expectations and focus listeners on the speaker. There is no point in talking if no one is listening or paying attention.
2) The introduction: this is where you tell the audience what is coming and why it is important.
3) First point, the transition into the next point, the second point, another transition and another point.
4) The summary: this is your conclusion and there is where you reemphasize your points.

2.Use PREP formula to express your points, deliver your ideas and thoughts:
1)P: point of view—state your thought, idea or fact at the beginning.
2)R: reasons – state your reasons for holding this point of view or idea.
3)E: example – illustrate, reinforce or prove your point of view.
4)P: point of view – restate the first P to emphasize your idea, more like a summary or conclusion.

3.By using PPT, the audience can understand the speaker better and follow him or her easier as well. There are many ways that you can make a great use of PPT. And the way I am suggesting here mainly applies to a small talk, a short-time presentation, like what we do here, in TMC. If use PPT, only put a few key words on the each slide. Otherwise, your audience will be busy reading the screen rather than listening to you. The most important asset of your presentation is you, is the speaker. We, as audience, are supposed to get the idea or thought from the speaker, but not from the screen. Otherwise, why don`t you just hand out the pamphlet instead right? So, do the audience or yourself a favor, try to be the focus, be the center of the attention, don`t let the screen get the best of your speech.

4.Defeat the fear. Fear is just one type of your emotions. Just like happy or upset. You know how to make yourself happy right? Buying a new laptop can make me happy. Listening to my favorite BON JOVI`S songs can make me happy. Having a delicious food can also make me happy. We all know how to make ourselves happy. We all know how to change our moods from unhappy to happy. It is the same. If you can feel the fear, then you can defeat that fear as well. The problem is how? Well, here are some methods for your reference and please try it out and see if it works for you:
1)Shift your focus: instead of thinking: the audience seems get bored, I must be doing a terrible job. You should think: maybe I should slow down a little bit, so that the audience have time to digest and I have time to organize my thoughts. See, you are shifting your focus from worrying about something that you have no control of to adjusting your pace, your way of delivering message. The more you focus on what you do, the better result you can get.
2)Think positively: we all heard a story that an old woman has two daughters Jane & Jenny. Jane is selling bumbersoll while Jenny is selling umbrella. What usually the old woman does is: In a sunny day, she worries about Jenny who sells umbrella and in a rainy day, she worries about Jane who sells bumbersoll. Do you know what she should be doing instead? In a sunny day, she should be happy for Jane having a good business day and in a rainy day, she should be happy for Jenny. It is all about how you think positively.
3)Know your fear and don`t run away from it, run over it. Do what you fear to do. We are all afraid of standing in front of strangers and giving public speech. Then grasp any chance you can to give public speech. Time after time, I assure you that you will start enjoying it instead of fearing of it. Practice makes perfect. And it is true. When you do the same thing many times, it will be just a piece of cake to you.
5.Find your confidence! When you do something that you are good at, I am pretty sure that you are full of confidence. But do you know why? Because you have the knowledge, that is what to do, the skills, how to do and the attitude, want to do. By having these three factors: knowledge + skills + attitude, you feel and know that you will do good. It is the same with giving presentation. First, you have to possess the knowledge –the subject, and the clear views or opinions about this subject. Second, you have to possess the skills – the way you present yourself, and your subject. Third, the attitude – you have to have the desire, the passion to talk about the subject and more importantly, you have to believe in yourself, and to believe that you have the ability to do that.

Of course, to possess these three things, you have homework to do, that would be preparation. So take your presentation seriously and prepare it thoroughly.

Now, to sum up, adopt a simple structure for your talk, use PREP formula to express your points, use PPT appropriately and find a way to get rid of your fear and most of all, be confident!

It is the end of my speech, so thanks!